Now don’t get all bent out of shape. I just needed a title to hook you. That said I would like to address an issue which is the direct result of a profound change that has occurred in our society over the last forty-plus years.
It used to be that women said to men, “If you would like to enjoy, oh, say, ‘the finer things in life,’ you may have them. But first I want a ring on my finger and a promise before God and everyone else that you will love, honor, and obey me for the rest of your life.” And men, having no other recourse to those goods, said rather plaintively, “Oh, alright.” And the system worked rather well with some failures here and there.
But somewhere along the line, women changed the rules. They began saying, “We’ll go ahead and let you have the finer things before you commit to us.” In other words, “We’ll let you enjoy the privileges of marriage without bearing its responsibilities.” And men said, “Now that’s more like it!” And the result has been an exponential growth in out-of-wedlock childbirths which any sane person would describe as wholly predictable.
So what am I saying? Only what everyone knows—that when it comes to sex, WOMEN HAVE THE POWER. If women set the bar at ten feet, that’s how high men have to jump; if women set the bar on the ground, men will walk all over them. Is that rocket science? And now let me draw the obvious conclusion: This country will never return to a moral sexual ethic, nor will illegitimacy ever be reduced unless women as a collective force hold the line against sexual immorality.
You can call this a double standard, sexist, and any of those other popular catchwords used to stifle debate; I choose to call it, “reality” or “human nature,” and when you run up against these, you are going to lose. Are men equally to blame for the breakdown of the family we have witnessed the past several decades? Of course they are, and had I had sons, I would have taught them sexual purity and respect towards women that is a woman’s due, as every Christian father should. But this does not change the fact that on the whole men are men and women are women, and that it is women who have the power to make men behave, and if they don’t, men won’t. It’s as simple as that.
But this won’t happen. Feminism has taught three generations of women that they can and should be as sexually predatory and promiscuous as men, even though deep down women know that such is not a woman’s nature, proving that feminism not only debases women but renders them utterly stupid. Witness the recent disgraceful display of a high school valedictorian pleading for abortion and contraception for young women or the spate of women school teachers laying underage boys. You’ve come a long way, Baby!
So as an aging man who has his own share of failures and mistakes, I plead with young Christian women: Hold the line! Heck, I’ll even plead with pagan women: Hold the line! You’ll be glad you did and society will be a better off.