Friday in the Eighth Week of Ordinary Time

1 Peter 3:7

Likewise, Husbands

Having spoken to wives, the Apostle now turns to husbands.  What he says is encapsulated in one verse, but what a verse!  Allow me first to remark how consistent Scripture is, how in the writing of their letters (which unbeknownst to them would become the New Testament), the apostles manifest such perfect agreement, some emphasizing one matter, others another, but always in complete harmony.  What each says about relations between husband and wife and parents and children aligns with the other—and no wonder; such precision is to be expected from the word of God.

Husbands are commanded to “live with their wives in an understanding way.”  The Greek word for “understanding” may also be translated “according to knowledge.”  Perhaps the word, “considerately,” carries the better sense given the context (NICNT, 122).  A husband’s knowledge of his wife is to be personal and loving, tender-hearted and sincere, sacrificial and seeking to meet her needs.  Given the ancient world where women were little better than property, these words (as well as Paul’s) on a husband’s responsibility towards his wife were revolutionary.  They still are but cut in the opposite direction: Whereas then these words were revolutionary for the honor paid to the wife in a world where women could be wantonly mistreated, they are revolutionary now for the honor paid to a wife in a day when both sexes are encouraged to be simply wanton.  Moreover, a husband is to honor his wife “as the weaker vessel,” indicating her greater vulnerability before the world.  He must care for her, protect her and keep her, provide for and love her.  If this is termed “sexist” today, so be it; thinking pagans will admit the truth of it.

And a husband is to honor his wife for two reasons: 1) She is an heir with him in the “grace of life,” referring to their common salvation in Christ Jesus.  She is his equal in creation as each are created in God’s image, and his equal in redemption as each are saved through the blood of Christ.  And, 2) He is to live with her in an understanding way so that their “prayers may not be hindered.”  There is no excuse for a Christian couple to not be praying together daily.  There are so many things to pray about in every marriage and family.  Praying together also opens up hearts as husband and wife share with one another their burdens, cares, joys, and triumphs.  Most important, through the reading of Scripture along with praying together, both grow together in the grace and knowledge of the Lord.  And husband, it is your job to lead out in this.  You are your family’s pastor.  Now do it!

Author: The Reformed Baptist

My name is Stephen Taylor, ordained Baptist minister of eighteen years pastoral experience with a Ph.D. in Historical Theology from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Fort Worth, Texas. Better than that, I am married to a godly woman, Karla, who has been very patient with me since 1989. I have two daughters, both of whom I homeschooled for extended periods of time, who became godly young women, and who ran off and married godly young men, all of which is very proper. The oldest daughter has even seen fit to bless me with a grandson and a granddaughter, and my youngest daughter with a grandson, all three of whom are bundles of exceeding joy. As you can see, I am quite blessed. This website is dedicated to helping people grow in the wisdom and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ through the gift of writing that the Lord has given to me. It is specifically about helping His people grow in godliness, the theme you see repeated above. I write devotions with this aim and hope that they might be of some help to God’s people. Full disclosure: I am of a Reformed bent, meaning that my understanding of Scripture is primarily informed by the Reformers and their successors of the sixteenth and seventeenth centuries. However, as a student of church history and theology, I strive to remain true to that teaching handed down once for all unto the saints through every age of the Church. I like to think of myself as a “catholic” Christian, as the Reformers thought of themselves. At any rate, feel free to read, pray, and contact me if you wish, or correct me if need be. As you can see, I tend to follow the church year. Of course, I make no special claims about these devotions. I know very well that others have written better and plumbed the depths of God’s word with greater insight. But if my musings help someone draw closer to the Lord, well then, I have my reward. Blessings to you and may the God and Father of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ speak to you that word which He knows you especially need to hear. Grace & peace, Stephen Taylor

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